Can you believe that the year is coming to a close? 2016 was an interesting year to say the least. Like anything in life, the year had its ups and downs. But I can truly say it is the year that I feel like I experienced the most personal growth. While reminiscing on the year, I started to think of the biggest lessons that I learned and the ones that I wanted to take with me to 2017 and live by. I'm sharing these with the hopes that they might inspire people and feel the transformation that I have started to feel.
1. Do not live in the past
All of the greatest life coaches and personal development coaches preach it. This is a lesson I’ve known about for a while. But I don’t think it was until this year that I actually decided to listen to this piece of advice. I used to struggle with letting past mistakes and failures define me and consume my brain. Little did I know, letting that stuff fill up my thoughts wasn’t leaving room for any new growth. If I made a mistake or had a regret, I would hold onto that feeling for a long time. I’ve now learned (and it takes time) to actually practice letting go of those things that cause me feelings of guilt or anger. And I truly feel that doing so has allowed me to allow more positive things to flow into my life.
2. Write your goals out
Setting goals and physically writing them down has been a huge game changer in my life. I like to go into each month knowing what I plan on accomplishing that month and I also set weekly goals that will ultimately help me achieve that month goal. Write them down and read them often to remind yourself and keep yourself focused.
3. Give more than you take
I’ve been consistently surrounded by people who give an immense amount of value. I’ve also seen people who don’t have much at all selflessly give what they do have. It has inspired me to do the same. Give what you can give and it will come back tenfold.
4. Surround yourself with people who have similar goals
You are the average of the people you surround yourself by. If you are surrounded by 4 workaholics, you will be the 5th. If you are surrounded by 4 people who prioritize partying, you will do the same. Guard your energy and your time and be sure to be surrounding yourself with people who have similar goals as you. Maybe even form a mastermind with them and focus on growing and getting better together.
5. It is better to try and fail than to not try at all
This has been a tough one for me. Earlier in my business, I was such a perfectionist to the point where it was holding me back more than I can even explain in words. I would write blog posts but not post them because I was afraid they weren’t perfect. I would learn a new skill set but be afraid to try it because I didn’t want to fail. I would avoid making sales calls because I was afraid that my pitch wasn’t perfect and I’d get turned down. Fail quickly and learn from your mistakes.
6. Don't be afraid to invest in yourself
This year, I invested in a business coach, a fitness coach, and a few other programs. Some people thought I was dumb for doing it. “Why would you pay for fitness coaching when you know what you’re doing,” or “You can learn all that stuff online.” Sometimes people say it as a sales technique but from experience, I have learned that you truly are way more invested in anything when you spend money on it. You also get insight, perspectives, and techniques that you might not think about on your own. Now I’m not saying become a course junkie and invest in every course that you see on your Facebook newsfeed, but don’t be afraid of spending money on something that will help you grow. I mentioned earlier that I feel that 2016 has been one of my most transformational years and I really think the shift happened after I invested in coaching.
Don’t be afraid to make new friends. This year, I went to several conferences (one of them I even went to alone) and put myself out there and networked with a variety of people. I’ve also met a lot of people online through Facebook groups and courses, some who I have become close friends with. You never know who could turn into a lifelong friend, a partner, or a client. It’s always exciting to meet someone new, trade stories, and hear a new person’s perspective on things.
8. Don’t ever give up on yourself
I saved the best for last. This is probably the most important lesson that I want to share with you guys. The last three years of my life have been a roller coaster. As my fellow entrepreneurs would know, the entrepreneurial journey is not easy. I’ve had the highest of highs and I’ve hit the lowest of lows. I’ve spent time questioning my purpose, my life direction, and myself. There were many times where I felt like I was not cut out for this. Times I thought I should throw in the towel and quit on my dreams. If you’re ever feeling like this, know you’re not alone. And know that you are capable of achieving your goals and making your dreams come to life.
I hope you find some value in this blog post that you can apply to your own life. Or even better, evaluate your own year. What good habits did you build? What bad habits you want to leave behind? Reflect on the past year, good and bad, and see what lessons you learned that you can take with you into 2017.